life is a relationship. with your own self and with every thing, u think and do. again sharing the words from osho: From the chapter, The Koan of Relationship A relationship is a puzzle with no clue to it. Howsoever you try to manage it, you will never be able to manage it. Nobody has ever been able to manage it. It is made in such a way that it simply remains puzzling. The more you try to demystify it, the more mysterious it becomes. The more you try to understand it, the more elusive it is. It is a greater koan than any koan that Zen masters give to their disciples, because their koans are meditative -- one is alone. When you are given the koan of relationship it is far more complicated, because you are two -- differently made, differently conditioned, polar opposites to each other, pulling in different directions, manipulating each other, trying to possess, dominate... there are a thousand and one problems. While meditating, the only problem is how to be silent, how not to be caught in thoughts. In relationship there are a thousand and one problems. If you are silent, there is a problem. Just sit silently by the side of your wife and you will see - she will immediately jump upon you: "Why are you silent? What do you mean?" Or speak, and you will be in trouble - whatsoever you say, you are always misunderstood. No relationship can ever come to a point where it is not a problem. Or if sometimes you see a relationship coming to a point where it is no longer a problem, that simply means it is not a relationship anymore. The relationship has disappeared - the fighters are tired, they have started accepting things as they are. They are bored; they don't want to fight any more. They have accepted it, they don't want to improve upon it. Or, in the past, people tried to create a kind of harmony forcibly. That's why, down the ages, women were repressed - that was one way of sorting things out. Just force the woman to follow the man, then there is no problem. But it is not a relationship either.